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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

Last Updated: 18.06.2025 11:02

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

How would you feel if your friend confided in you that she is cheating on her husband, knowing that he loves her deeply? What emotional and ethical considerations would you grapple with in response to her revelation?

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

What are some things that children used to wait for, but are no longer common in today's society?

By taking turns talking.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.